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TheDreamer
When I grow up, I want to be part of the Search and Rescue Team. The ones who rescue stray dogs. What do they do aside from rescuing the dogs?
Answer
What you are interested in is NOT Search & Rescue (SAR). That is finding LOST people (like missing kids, hikers, Alzheimer's victims that have wandered off) or recovering bodies due to: drownings, building collapses, storms (stuff like what happened in Japan) due to the earthquake & tsunami. VERY important work, IMO, & very rewarding, finding lost/missing people. Some folks even train dog to find/track lost pets.
We already have people who do Animal Control & who generally pick up stray or lost pets. That can be very sad or frustrating work, especially if you have to see animal cruelty or you have to put animals to sleep. These folks do sometimes have to go to court to testify aginst animal abusers.
Doing rescue and adoption through a group (set up to do that) is still different. Most of these dogs are either surrendered to the Rescue group or gotten out of kill shelters, by the groups just before they would be euthanized. (There is no money in it, although many people feel a great sense of accomplishment in doing it as a volunteer).
Dogs have to be transported to a vet, have to be given a health exam, shots, spay/neuter a check for heart worms, fecal worms etc. & treated for any ailments, infections etc. Dogs usually go into foster care until they heal from their spay/neuter. This can last 2 weeks, but can become longer, if the pet isn't easy to re-home or has an ongoing health problem. While waiting a good permanent home, the foster parent tries to house-break, crate-train the dog, lead break, etc. The dog needs to be EVALUATED as to how it is with other: dogs, cats & children before being offered for adoption. Rasing money to help fund this is tough & a constant battle. Adoption fees rarely cover all the costs. Finding homes can also be challenging & ads are expensive.
What you are interested in is NOT Search & Rescue (SAR). That is finding LOST people (like missing kids, hikers, Alzheimer's victims that have wandered off) or recovering bodies due to: drownings, building collapses, storms (stuff like what happened in Japan) due to the earthquake & tsunami. VERY important work, IMO, & very rewarding, finding lost/missing people. Some folks even train dog to find/track lost pets.
We already have people who do Animal Control & who generally pick up stray or lost pets. That can be very sad or frustrating work, especially if you have to see animal cruelty or you have to put animals to sleep. These folks do sometimes have to go to court to testify aginst animal abusers.
Doing rescue and adoption through a group (set up to do that) is still different. Most of these dogs are either surrendered to the Rescue group or gotten out of kill shelters, by the groups just before they would be euthanized. (There is no money in it, although many people feel a great sense of accomplishment in doing it as a volunteer).
Dogs have to be transported to a vet, have to be given a health exam, shots, spay/neuter a check for heart worms, fecal worms etc. & treated for any ailments, infections etc. Dogs usually go into foster care until they heal from their spay/neuter. This can last 2 weeks, but can become longer, if the pet isn't easy to re-home or has an ongoing health problem. While waiting a good permanent home, the foster parent tries to house-break, crate-train the dog, lead break, etc. The dog needs to be EVALUATED as to how it is with other: dogs, cats & children before being offered for adoption. Rasing money to help fund this is tough & a constant battle. Adoption fees rarely cover all the costs. Finding homes can also be challenging & ads are expensive.
How do i get my son 2 sleep all night?
Angela
My son is almost 9 months old. He always used to sleep all night in his own crib, since he was 5 weeks old. I started letting him take naps with me on the couch or in our bed. Now, he wont sleep at all in his crib. I think he should cry it out, but my husband always runs to the rescue. How do i get him to fall asleep and stay asleep in his own crib again? And if i do let him cry it out, how long should i let him cry for? How long will I have to do it? Im scared to go in his room and pick him up because i think im feeding the problem. But everytime I do, he instantly stops crying and sleeps on my chest. sometimes i go in there and give him his pacifer and try to walk out, but he gets even more upset. If i pick him up, he can sleep on me all night....but as soon as i try laying him back down, it starts again. What should I do?
Answer
For small babies, crying is the only way of communicating their needs as they cannot verbalise these yet. If a baby consistently gets the message that their attempts to communicate with you are ignored, they will eventually give up trying. So you may think you have won the battle, but you may have lost the war. People who think they have "broken a bad habit" now after "only" a few nights/weeks (!) of letting their babies "cry it out" now, should not be surprised when that baby grows into a sullen teenager who rejects your attempts to communicate with him/her then. I challenge the person who mentions 'several studies' to name just one--why did they not give a link to their source?
Why did you start letting your baby take naps with you in the first place? Probably because babies are so cute, so vulnerable, it is our instinct as a parent to protect them as much as we can. Your husband is still following this instinct. Don't let so-called experts who make money selling books make you doubt your own instincts. Follow your heart. Isn't it heartbreaking for you to listen to your little precious one crying when all it takes is a cuddle from you for him to stop? Isn't this causing you more loss of sleep than a contented baby peacefully sleeping curled up against you? There are extremely few cases recorded of a baby being crushed by a parent in their sleep if they co-sleep, the only contraindications would be if the parent is obese or reflexes are dulled by alcohol or drugs. To offset these, many more babies' lives have been saved from cot death because a co-sleeping parent is aware of changes in breathing and wakes up in time to save the baby. Have you ever heard of a cat or dog suffocating her litter? Only sows need farrowing crates because commercial farming has rendered them obese.
Co-sleeping was the norm in human history, and still is, not just in "primitive" societies but in countries that I have personal experience of such as Japan and Greece. See http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Great_Bed_of_Ware for a bed in England big enough for 15 people. The early American pioneer log cabins only had one room and the whole family would have shared a bed simply to stay warm. The idea of babies sleeping separately only came recently when affluence brought central heating and houses/apartments large enough for separate rooms for each member. So why do Mum and Dad still share a bed? The sex is just a few minutes, not even every night, it could easily happen elsewhere. No, it is the need to cuddle up to somebody for warmth and comfort. Do you think Baby needs this less?
Furthermore, I am concerned by a common thread running through many answers. Pacifiers, special CDs with music to resemble the heartbeat, separate cribs, bottles--all artificial substitutes, all material objects invented by companies to make money, to replace natural things like mother's breast and milk, and her heartbeat which after all the baby heard for nine months, and still wants to be soothed by outside the womb.
Personally I read a great number of parenting books while I was pregnant, and I found the "cry it out" "sleep-training" approach horrifying and cruel. The one author I found consistently congenial, intuitively appealing but also with sound science to back up his approach, is Dr William Sears. I have all his Parenting Library books but you can get a good idea of the basics of attachment parenting, including sleep, here: http://www.askdrsears.com/
Listen to your son rather than the "experts", his crying when he is alone, his 'instantly stops crying' when he is with you, tell it all. You should not be 'scared' to listen to your heart. If you didn't have doubts about the "cry it out" approach you wouldn't have posted the question here. You are lucky that your husband is already on the right wave-length and will support you in this. You will be rewarded by a secure, affectionate little boy as he grows up. One day he will want to be alone (and it will hurt you!), right now he wants to be with you all the time. Is that too much to ask?
For small babies, crying is the only way of communicating their needs as they cannot verbalise these yet. If a baby consistently gets the message that their attempts to communicate with you are ignored, they will eventually give up trying. So you may think you have won the battle, but you may have lost the war. People who think they have "broken a bad habit" now after "only" a few nights/weeks (!) of letting their babies "cry it out" now, should not be surprised when that baby grows into a sullen teenager who rejects your attempts to communicate with him/her then. I challenge the person who mentions 'several studies' to name just one--why did they not give a link to their source?
Why did you start letting your baby take naps with you in the first place? Probably because babies are so cute, so vulnerable, it is our instinct as a parent to protect them as much as we can. Your husband is still following this instinct. Don't let so-called experts who make money selling books make you doubt your own instincts. Follow your heart. Isn't it heartbreaking for you to listen to your little precious one crying when all it takes is a cuddle from you for him to stop? Isn't this causing you more loss of sleep than a contented baby peacefully sleeping curled up against you? There are extremely few cases recorded of a baby being crushed by a parent in their sleep if they co-sleep, the only contraindications would be if the parent is obese or reflexes are dulled by alcohol or drugs. To offset these, many more babies' lives have been saved from cot death because a co-sleeping parent is aware of changes in breathing and wakes up in time to save the baby. Have you ever heard of a cat or dog suffocating her litter? Only sows need farrowing crates because commercial farming has rendered them obese.
Co-sleeping was the norm in human history, and still is, not just in "primitive" societies but in countries that I have personal experience of such as Japan and Greece. See http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Great_Bed_of_Ware for a bed in England big enough for 15 people. The early American pioneer log cabins only had one room and the whole family would have shared a bed simply to stay warm. The idea of babies sleeping separately only came recently when affluence brought central heating and houses/apartments large enough for separate rooms for each member. So why do Mum and Dad still share a bed? The sex is just a few minutes, not even every night, it could easily happen elsewhere. No, it is the need to cuddle up to somebody for warmth and comfort. Do you think Baby needs this less?
Furthermore, I am concerned by a common thread running through many answers. Pacifiers, special CDs with music to resemble the heartbeat, separate cribs, bottles--all artificial substitutes, all material objects invented by companies to make money, to replace natural things like mother's breast and milk, and her heartbeat which after all the baby heard for nine months, and still wants to be soothed by outside the womb.
Personally I read a great number of parenting books while I was pregnant, and I found the "cry it out" "sleep-training" approach horrifying and cruel. The one author I found consistently congenial, intuitively appealing but also with sound science to back up his approach, is Dr William Sears. I have all his Parenting Library books but you can get a good idea of the basics of attachment parenting, including sleep, here: http://www.askdrsears.com/
Listen to your son rather than the "experts", his crying when he is alone, his 'instantly stops crying' when he is with you, tell it all. You should not be 'scared' to listen to your heart. If you didn't have doubts about the "cry it out" approach you wouldn't have posted the question here. You are lucky that your husband is already on the right wave-length and will support you in this. You will be rewarded by a secure, affectionate little boy as he grows up. One day he will want to be alone (and it will hurt you!), right now he wants to be with you all the time. Is that too much to ask?
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